How do you want to see women empowered?

[Jill]

To create the desired result we need to see the end picture.

To change the world we need to see how we want it to be and not how it is.

How do you want to see women empowered in our world?

My list:

1. I see all women free to choose the life they desire.
2. I see women fully capable of caring for their children and land.
3. I see all women blessed with prosperous bounty to provide for those they love.
4. I see all women loving themselves so much that they create the life that reflects their perfect love of self!
5. I see all women happy, fulfilled, safe, and at peace.

Now it's your turn! You'll find hopefully as I have when you read lists like this your own joy and energy will grow!

[Ann]

Jill,
I would have to agree with all of the above! I love my kids and I would want women to be able to spend time with them and enjoy them while they are little. Women need to be supported.
Have a great day.

[Jill]

Thanks for the add Ann!

[Arrelle]

Jill:

I agree with your list

In addition to Number 1 not only women free to choose the life they desire but don't feel the need to explain the reason why.

[Jill]

Good stuff ladies, let's keep adding!

[MysticPaige]

My husband has a different way of treating women. He gets along with him mom famously and is very respectful to most woment to their faces, however he is from US, he has a hispanic background where the woman is the workhorse. I am disabled to a point where I am not able to do a lot. He has accepted this for the most part. I will talk about that later, but the most trouble we have in communicating is that he views women so different than men. His mother has spoiled him all of his life and he does have 4 other siblings. He is her favorite and it is apparent to everyone except she will always deny that she favors him. He has a bad habit of telling his mother everything that he needs to tell me and waits to tell me when convenient for him. We have been to counseling and he found out that he is jealous of me quite a lot. He is also bi-polar and it is apparently not bad enough for him to take medication for it. So our family suffers to a certain point when he is overtired or hungry etc.
The culture itself does not lend itself to respecting women in the way the general American public would think. In this culture the women cater to the man in every way imaginable and when we met he was well aware that I was a different kind of woman than he had ever been with or dated.

I was not only brought up in American ways I am also a mystic so I am a little different than other woman generally anyway. I am and have always been quite independant. I have hispanic in me, so it was unique to date and eventually marry someone from a race point of view that was close to my own. I was not brought up to embrace my hispanic race but to embrace being an American. I don't cater to him as a traditional hispanic woman would. Sooooo.... the reason for me telling you this background is that I have had to stand up stronger than I normally would and actually stand my ground and tell him no. He doesn't like to hear that and it has caused us some rift in our marriage.
He also tells on me as to what I won't do for him to his mom and I have had to get over that and not really care.

Now on the good side, we have a very loving, trusting and passionate relationship and basically he does his thing, which is mainly armchair sports and I do my thing which is doing what I am doing now, posting on the computer. This kind of relationship, I am used to, because any other kind would not allow me to spend hours doing what I feel I need to do, but I actually love it. Would I have it another way? Probably not. This next best thing would be for me not to be in a relationship and do the things I like to do, which are usually not the things men like to do.

Is it healthy? Sometimes yes, sometimes no. I have learned that when it becomes argumentative to get out of the situation and do something else. This works for me. I am changing/transforming into a better person all the way round and always trying to better my own health.

Do I deserve better? I don't actually like the word deserve because what does it really mean. I am happy to live the life I am living and I love my family, which is my husband and daughter. I accept the things I don't like as his things, and focus on my own intentions. The overlap is when good things happen it happens for the whole family usually and everyone is excited. Would other people like my life? Maybe not, but its my life and I can say that I have my moments daily that are serene and calm and that is truly all that I can ask for. Can things get better? Yes, there is always room for change for the better. Having my divine presence in my life makes all the difference in the world. The close connection I keep with her shows me that I am my own person and I can do the things that I choose to do. I don't allow anybody to get in my way and stop me from growing in the ways I want to grow.

My life may not be ammenable to the person next door or even you, but it suits me fine. Some of you may find yourself in non-normal situations as we listen and hear others priorities and it should not make you feel guilty or abnormal, just know that everyone is different and if we don't like things that are happening to us or around us, we can stand up strong and make a claim for change and never let anybody get in are way just because they think they know our lives better than we do.

Hugs, Paige

[Jill]

Hi Paige,

Thanks for the post, and trust me no one has the "normal" version of a relationship - whatever that is!

Here's my challenge to you! Instead of focusing on him for the next 30 days, decide how you want him to "treat" you, write it down and identify the qualities you'd like to see come from him.

After writing those down, start looking for those qualities in you, in him, and in everyone and everything - it might be respect, patience, whatever, just pick at least three and try this for 30 days.

Let me know how it goes. Everyone's life is there own and no matter WHAT that life is, we are all perfect now in the eyes of truth and we are all worthy of love now in the eyes of truth....all the personality stuff is just working out the details of the here and now.

Blessings of joy and love to you!

Jill

[MysticPaige]

Sounds Great Jill. I will try it. Hugs, Paige

[dragonfli]

i see all women doing the following:


1. to speak up and not be afraid of what others think;
2. to always listen to their intuition, however, it comes to them, i.e., an inner knowing, a voice, a dream, a vision, etc., and pay attention to it;
3. should a relative, friend, b/f, husband, employer, neighbor, landlord, mistreat you in any way, get rid of the negative person at once;
4. make time to pamper yourself, i.e, take a luxurious bath, read a good book, go hiking in nature, eat something delicious, sleep in if you need it, without guilt, watch a good movie, get or give yourself a facial, manicure, pedicure, etc.;
5. take time every day to appreciate something good, maybe music, your good friends, and/or build a support group around yourself.

[MysticPaige]

I really like your list dragonfli. BTW, I recently started wearing this dragonfly necklace with some saphhires in it. I just love the dragonfly and I love him as a totem animal as well. Hugs, Paige

[dragonfli]

sounds pretty Paige and as a totem animal as well! dragonfly, according to something i just clicked on, on Google, says that everything is stripped away that prevents us from achieving our dreams and replaced with our true power to create. colors vibrate and attract to us what we desire. here is the link, i just happened to click on:

http://tribes.tribe.net/animalguides/thread/b7e82ca8-c2ef-4f84-bc0c...

i am sure you will love wearing your dragonfly. this link i randomly clicked on said this:

"This indicates that working with Dragonfly energy may also help you come to some swift conclusions or new insights that help propel you into new ways of being and doing. Certainly it is a most important time for seeing through illusions and really hearing the messages that the Universe is sending you at this time. Beliefs that centre on powerlessness, limitation or fear are likely to be up for review and release."

Enjoy your dragonfly Paige. Thank you for your post. Much love, dragonfli

[MysticPaige]

Thanks Dragonfli for the information. I enjoyed reading it. Gave me lots of food for thought. My dreaming lately has become wild, imaginative, retrospective and extremely colorful. Hugs, Paige

[Jill]

Great Posts!